Losing weight and getting healthy is easier when you do it with someone else. Here are 5 easy rules for an effective and loving partnership. Losing weight is not an easy feat, that’s for sure. The world is full of temptations to face, thresholds to cross and obstacles to avoid.
Day after day, life seems to throw curveball after curveball, testing your will and conviction on your journey to health and happiness.
For many, it’s a lonely journey. A long, strenuous, winding road through the Valley of Self-Sabotage and the Desert of Restriction.
In other words, it’s not always glitz and glamour. More like klutz and anger.
Well, what if it didn’t have to be that way? What if I told you that losing weight could in fact be a source of human connection, growth, self-awareness and kindness?
You’d tell me I was crazy right?
What is a Weight Loss Partner?
As you already know, the path to weight loss and optimal health is not simply a question of calorie counting or treadmill pounding, it’s above all an emotional and mental journey. And one that’s best not undertaken alone.
Growing your own Fitness Tribe is a good place to start. But in keeping with the spirit of Valentine’s Day, you might also want to find yourself a partner.
This of course, could mean anything you want it to mean: boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, partner, best friend, lover, etc. You choose!
A partner can be crucial not only to your success but also to your enjoyment along the way.
They’ll be there to help you through a tough week, to give you a pep talk when you’re feeling discouraged, and may even cook you a nice healthy meal once in a while.
Here’s how to make the most of your partnership:
Rule #1: PICK YOUR WEIGHT LOSS PARTNER WISELY
The path to health is a lifelong commitment, so you’d better pick someone who resonates with your desires and intentions.
It doesn’t have to be your current spouse or boyfriend: just find someone that has a similar motivation to you and who understands what the commitment entails.
What you don’t want is to partner up with someone who lacks the capacity, awareness and understanding to look inside themselves. In other words, who is a Victim not a Creator.
Of course, be sure to re-evaluate your partnership every so often, and communicate any fears and doubts as early as possible.
Rule #2: ADOPT A GROWTH MINDSET
Psychologist Carol Dweck has been researching achievement and success for many years, and divides our mind-sets into two categories: a fixed mindset or a growth mindset.
People with a fixed mindset believe that “they are what they are”: they don’t change or improve much over time, if at all. As a result, they plateau early and achieve less than their full potential.
People with a growth mindset believe that intelligence can be developed, just like a muscle. They have a desire to improve, and to focus on the learning process.
By adopting a growth mindset with your weight loss partner, you’ll be more inclined to learn about the weight loss process, in time leading to quicker results.
Rule #3: BE A MIRROR
When you’re helping someone else towards his or her goals, you must be as open and honest as you can. Lead with the truth, and communicate (with love) your honest feedback to the other person – then allow them to take it on board, or not!
Of course, you must expect – and welcome – the same in return. Only through open and loving dialogue will you both learn to grow and become more aware of your own behaviours and actions.
Rule #4: SUPPORT YOURSELF FIRST
When you enter into any kind of partnership, it can be very easy to think solely of the other person, and to neglect your own needs entirely.
This is a very important rule: serve your own heart before your partners.
Because you can never serve with love or your full potential if you are neglecting part of yourself while doing so.
For example, if your body needs a lie-in but your partner wants you to go running with him at 6am (again), you must serve yourself first and choose to catch up on your sleep: this will enhance your capacity to support your partner in other ways.
Rule #5: BE A ROCK
A weight loss partner can be your rock for you to dig deeper than you ever have, mentally and emotionally as well as physically.
By providing a strong and compassionate partnership, you can allow your partner to fully explore their fears, insecurities, limitations and desires, without judgement or over-expectation.
Over time, you’ll both develop the courage to follow your hearts every step of the way, and to fully face and fully feel all the emotions contained within yourselves and within your bodies.
Now I would love to hear from you: what are your experiences of exercising or training with a partner? Good or bad, I want to hear them! Just leave a comment below the blog post.
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Love & Health,