THE best piece of advice I have read for a while: how changing your thinking about your resolutions can leave you with more freedom and more health than ever before. Facebook can be such a wonderful tool. Despite its uncanny ability to lure you in by triggering that innate need to watch the latest dogs behaving badly video, it is also full of nuggets of gold and pearls of wisdom, ready to transform your health, life and everything in between.
Just today, one of my close friends posted a beautiful post from Dr Wayne Dwyer, an American self-help author and motivational speaker. Now before we dive into what this post contains, allow me first to set the scene…
2014 is now well underway. It seemed like only yesterday that we were counting down to midnight, full of excitement and wonder for the year to come. Yet somehow here we are nearly in February.
This is the time we can become disheartened with the resolutions and goals we set ourselves on the 1st of January. This is the time where our motivation can get lost in the dark depressing days of winter.
We’ve already seen three main reasons why 80% of us give up on their resolutions and four tricks to bulletproof our resolutions. Now here comes THE mother of all resolutions tip. Are you ready?
Wayne Dwyer’s Tip
Wayne Dwyer proposes one ingenuous idea: that the simple fact of deciding resolutions for how you wish to act months from now keeps you living in the future rather than in the present moment.
It’s the eternal whisper of our identities, promising us a finish line of health, happiness and fulfillment once we kick that last unhealthy habit.
And yet it keeps us daydreaming about tomorrow and making plans for the future, away from today and from the NOW – which is where the magic happens.
As Dwyer points out: “you can go about planning until the cows come home, and you still have to live your life just like everyone else on this planet—ONE DAY AT A TIME.”
In other words, instead of our constant review of which behaviours we would like to change, it would be far more beneficial to resolve to live each day fully present, fully aware, and fully conscious.
How to create daily resolutions
Creating daily resolutions is pretty easy. Here’s a simple 2-step process:
Step 1: Decide to live life in the present lane
The first step towards living in the present moment is simply to take a leap of faith and to make the decision to take each day as they come, for the rest of your life.
It may feel a bit like stepping into darkness, into the mystery, into the unknown. Part of us wants to analyse what happened yesterday, wants to plan for every eventuality.
Decide to bring yourself gently back to your current reality whenever you find yourself zooming into your past or your future.
Re-affirm this decision every single day by saying out loud to yourself, with conviction: “I choose to embrace my current reality and to live today in the present moment”.
Step 2: Allow each “new you” to inform you of your resolution for the day
When you set long-term resolutions, it can seem impossible and interminable: our brains just cannot cope with such long-term thinking.
The thing is, you are constantly evolving, changing and learning. The person that will go to bed tonight will be different to the one reading this blog post right now.
So deciding now on how the “future you” needs to live his or her life is pretty counter-productive, right?
Instead, each morning decide what you will resolve to do for that day, and that day ONLY.
Because you see, it’s much easier to do something for a day (like not eating sugar) than it is for an extended period of time.
The fact is, you probably will decide to choose the same resolution as the day before – but you don’t have to.
As Wayne Dwyer puts it: “always let the new you make the decision, and then you’ll be living your present moments.”
Now it’s your turn: leave a comment below with what your current daily resolution is. Mine for today is to express more gratitude to those I love, so while I think of it: a HUGE thank you for reading this blog and for your support and love.
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Love & Health,